Choose! A dynamo girl or a queen? As well as other types of virgins.

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Girls who haven't had sex are different. I mean, with different attitudes towards their own virginity, and, if we continue this thought, with different attitudes towards life in general. Below is a kind of classification of young vestaloka, designed to help in communicating with them - knowing what to expect from a person, it is much easier to communicate with him.

Dreamer

types of virgins

A romantic young lady dreaming of a prince on a white horse, silk sheets in rose petals and other "fairy tale" attributes that have managed to tarnish the folk epic. The girl-princess rarely comes down to earth, preferring to habitually float in the clouds. If she manages to meet her "prince", she will be very lucky - God forbid to run into some brute who will rudely pluck this delicate flower, thinking only of himself and not caring at all about the girl's feelings.

If she manages to meet her "prince", she will be very lucky

A lifelong trauma. Entering adulthood, the dreamer begins to look for an ideal, which, by some strange coincidence, is like two drops of water similar to her father. In fact, he's a copy of her father.

Queen

A girl who is very confident in her own value, uniqueness and uniqueness. Sometimes she condescends to the rest of the world and graciously allows it to socialize with her. Under the influence of parents "queen" from childhood firmly internalized that worthy of all the best. She keeps her virginity as if it were some kind of treasure, which she is going to give, of course, to "the best man".

Virginity is kept like some treasure.

Waiting for it can drag on until adulthood, after which the "queen of the Balzac age" continues to guard herself already by habit. Innocence can speculate, like bait, wanting to "catch" thus suitable from her point of view candidate for husband or sponsors. Sex for such a woman is not very important, as, because of her own passivity, he often does not meet expectations.

Brainwashed girl

"Thanks to her parents' teachings, she is convinced that sex without a passport stamp is dirty and degrading to women. That by giving herself to a man who is not her husband, she will be of no use to anyone. They say that representatives of the stronger sex do not respect such women, and therefore never marry them. This attitude to virginity makes a girl run with it like a hen with an egg, carefully keeping her innocence until marriage.

cherishes her innocence until she's married.

The consequence of which is a very real possibility of acquiring a whole bunch of neuroses caused by sexual incompatibility, because, not knowing herself, her features, desires, and who she needs, the girl marries literally blind.

Nymphomaniac

She got her sexual education literally on the street, talking about "it" with her peers, and later testing her theoretical knowledge in practice. Interest was aroused by articles from teen magazines, while parents, due to modesty or sanctimony, missed such an important moment of their daughter's formation, not taking any part in it. Girls in this category are convinced that sex is good, they understand the terms, and dream of entering the big sex, being morally ready for it from the age of thirteen.

Girls in this category are convinced: sex is good

They lose their virginity at the first opportunity (often to spite their parents, as if to prove their adulthood), without feeling any mental anguish about it. Pleasure brings them rather, the process than the result, that is, orgasm. "Nymphomaniacs" is very important to learn self-control, otherwise there is a danger of going to the hands.

Pafigist

chickenshit

The healthiest, if I may say so, category of virgin girls. They do not make a cult out of their innocence - nor do they make a tragedy out of it. The right attitude to this issue contributed to the upbringing - without rigid prohibitions, with trusting conversations. "Pofigistka" does not rush events, however, if suddenly everything happened, she demonstrates a calm reaction, without hysterics. Sex for her is an absolutely natural process. More such girls would be good for themselves.

Sexton-hater

Potential old maid - sex is afraid of sex, having been raised by angry single women, whose favorite words were "they all need only one thing from us". A growing girl is practically uninformed in matters of sex, but the attitude to it has already been formed, and it is negative. The thought of possible defloration can even cause a stupor.

Potential old maid

She sees men as potential maniacs and perverts, considers masturbation and oral caresses to be the height of promiscuity. In bed with a man lays down or strong love, or because of the need to fulfill marital duty, which for her is exactly the duty - an unpleasant obligation. Sex is most often only tolerated, because she is convinced that every woman should have a man who, although he is a "dirty animal", but it is better to be with him than alone, and therefore, will have to endure.

They do not stay married for long, or their husbands have understanding and sex-loving girlfriends. The "sex-hating" women, of course, protest against them, but often only outwardly, as they are convinced that "all men are bound to cheat on their wives - it's nature".

The dinamo girl

Long ago and firmly learned that men appreciate sex and sexy women who can offer it to them. The style of dress - provocative, deliberately frank. The "dinamo girl" has a low libido, but builds herself a dominant female, exposing her body and attracting to herself, thereby attracting more men, wanting to make sure of their own irresistibility.

"Dynamo girl" has a low libido, but builds herself up as a dominant female by exposing her body and attracting to herself

Unexpected for the target audience (i.e. men) is their outrage, demonstrated in response to quite legitimate harassment on their part. Parting with virginity is often a matter of calculation. You - me (money, career, etc.), I - you (myself, unique).

Doubting

virgin in doubt

It is a mixture of several types, formed when opposing attitudes collide. This can happen when a mother, for example, diligently taught her daughter to think that "all men are assholes", while the television proved the exact opposite, showing the girl happy women in the arms of attractive and quite worthy males.

It may also happen that a "brainwashed girl" will be brought into the company of advanced peers ("nymphomaniacs") who believe that virginity is a sign of loquaciousness or some other vices. Experiencing a strong internal conflict, Ms. "brainwashed" can change attitudes to more loyal, and give herself, having previously taken a dose of hot drink on the chest, some lucky guy who happened to be nearby. The purpose of this is as follows: to pacify internal contradictions, and at the same time, to become "her own", because the role of "white crow" for most people is uncomfortable.

Like a virgin

Skilled and willing to give blowjobs. Practices anal sex. But she's saving her hymen for her future husband. Like, if you want me to let you in, get married. And if I don't, then how will I, "spoiled", get married? Such physiological virgins realize that without sex a man next to them will not last long, but they strongly want to get married, so they begin to manipulate the potential groom.

Artificial virgin, surgical

This girl did not deny herself anything - she had a lot of fun with different men, settled down, and finally met her soulmate. But here's the problem: the man turned out to be strict views - give him after the wedding bloody sheet. Well, the problem is solvable - for not too much money the surgeon will return the lost virginity, and everything will be like the first time again. Good for everyone.

❓ Frequently Asked Questions

  1. Who is a "nymphomaniac" in the context of virgins?
    This is a girl who has received sex education outside the family, shows early interest in sexuality, and seeks intimacy without emotional attachment. 
  2. Who's a "dynamo girl"?
    This is a girl who deliberately avoids sexual intimacy by using her attractiveness to manipulate men, but with no intention of engaging in intimate relationships.
  3. What does the type "queen" mean among virgins?
    "Queen" is a confident in her exclusivity girl who cherishes her virginity, seeing it as a value worthy of only "the best man".
  4. What are the characteristics of a "dreamer"?
    This is a romantic girl who idealizes relationships and expects a "prince on a white horse", which can lead to disappointments when faced with reality.
  5. What characterizes a "brainwashed girl"?
    She adheres to strict morals, often imposed by her parents, believing sex before marriage is unacceptable, which can lead to problems in intimate life after marriage.
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