Women's secrets or what not to tell a man?

It is commonly believed that frankness is good for the relationship, strengthens them, contributing to even greater unity of the souls of men and women. The question is, in fact, controversial, as frankness is of different kinds. In this article we will talk about sexual frankness: what facts from personal life, as well as thoughts and desires from men is better to hide?

Previous partners

There are men who, according to them, do not care at all about their, how should I put it... predecessors - the previous partners of the woman they love. It is unlikely to believe these words, as well as dedicate the speaker of them in the details of the history of his personal life. It is known that the man is jealous of the past. So these conversations themselves, and especially in a comparative degree, do not start, and in response to such a question to say that there were few men (ideally not more than two), and those who knew nothing about sex.

A man is jealous of the past

Even if it's such a big lie that it's scary. What's the most important thing? That's right, peace in the family. And so, the mission of this lie is to save it, the peace.

First man

Men love stories about the loss of innocence - the reason for this is the ineradicable desire of males to be the first and the last in a woman's life. Even if a friend does not start a conversation on a forbidden topic, sooner or later a man will ask her about her first partner, about the very first sex, and God forbid a woman to start talking about her first with admiration! She will not be forgiven for that. Nothing to male chauvinism for the last few centuries has not done - it lives and thrives, so caution and again caution in answering this difficult question.

Female masturbation

According to sexologists, about 70% married women practice masturbation in the absence of their husbands, who may not even realize it. Why? He is simply not told about it. And all because of the negative attitude of many men to this method of sexual discharge. Darkness.

After all, it is self-satisfaction helps not to snapped when your favorite husband is on a business trip, plus it is good for your health and brings variety to your sex life.

But if HE doesn't realize it, it's best not to say it.

His sexual failures

It is a grave mistake to discuss a man's sexual failures. Or (even more so) pointing them out to him. Tell a young man that he screwed up, and hello - inferiority complex for life, to get rid of which can only help psychotherapist. This is if you are lucky and the man will figure out where he needs to go. Very often women voice sexual fiascoes of a man out of revenge. Works for 100% - then no young lady, sincerely assuring him that he is a god in bed, will not be able to cure offended and disbelieved in his sexual abilities of the male. It is clear that with the one who told him traumatizing words, he will not linger. Therefore, in fact, be careful with words, especially concerning such delicate moments.

Confession to faking an orgasm

Many men (thanks to their talented women) consider themselves genius lovers. The girl thinks: "Why, I'm not sorry, I'll show him passion. And portrays as someone in Hollywood and never dreamed of. The man's thrilled, she's happy, everybody's happy. Okay, for that matter, there is nothing wrong with this - to simulate orgasm is quite applicable to the expression "lie for good", the main thing that the partner did not open the real state of affairs. Which, however, depends on the woman.

So be careful - don't overplay your hand and admit to your lover that he's not impressing you as much as you're showing him.

She won't forgive you. And another thing: if there are problems with achieving orgasm, it makes sense to consult a sexologist, as "non-orgasmic", if I may say so, women do not exist in nature. And it is not always the fault of the partner, perhaps the lack of orgasm was a consequence of psycho-emotional problems. Yes, the inability to experience sexual release is often a psychosomatic problem, which will help to solve only work with a psychologist or sexologist.

This is such a list of dangerous topics for relationships. Raising and/or developing them is not recommended, as things can go too far. It is clear that the list is incomplete - there are many more topics on which it is better not to talk to a man.

You can learn more about them at the consultation of a psychologist or sexologist, who have seen with their own eyes what such a conversation can lead to, and helped people to regain lost faith in themselves (this is to the point about sexual failures). As it is: it is better to know where to lay the straw - awareness of dangerous topics will help to protect the relationship from dangerous moments. Therefore, if possible, it is better to ask someone who knows - a psychologist.

❓ Frequently Asked Questions

1. Why shouldn't you tell a man about previous partners?
   Men tend to be jealous of their partner's past. Details about former relationships can cause him to feel insecure and distrustful.
2. How does discussing your first man affect your relationship?
   Men often want to be the one and only in a woman's life. Talking about his first sexual experience can hurt his ego and cause unwanted emotions.
3. Is it worth mentioning female masturbation?
   Many men have a negative attitude towards female masturbation, perceiving it as a sign of dissatisfaction. It is best to avoid this topic to avoid causing misunderstandings.
4. Why is it dangerous to discuss a man's sexual failures?
   Criticism in the intimate sphere can severely hurt male self-esteem and lead to complexes. Such conversations are better to be delicate or avoided altogether.
5. How does admitting to faking an orgasm affect a relationship?
   Admitting that the orgasm was insincere can undermine a man's confidence and self-esteem. If the simulation was a "lie for good", it is better to keep it a secret.