Self-pity. What is this feeling and how to get rid of it?

Have you ever thought that self-pity is a disease? Even if it is fleeting, even if it is just a moment, but it is a kind of mental illness. That's what the experts say. Psychologists, professionals agree in one thing - self-pity must be fought.

If you are feeling sorry for yourself twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week - seek professional help. Adequate psychological help is always useful.

But first you need to find out for yourself what it means to feel sorry for yourself and how adequately you evaluate yourself. Be your own home psychologist for at least a couple of minutes.

What is pity?

All emotions have both positive and negative traits. Likewise with pity, which is also an emotion. Pity can become a kind of a way to forgetSelf-pity freezes the heartache when it catches up with us. Self-pity puts all your other emotions to sleep, helps you find shelter, keeps you from being invaded.

Self-pity is a kind of internal medicine for pain.

But like every drug, it has a lot of side effects. The worst is overdosing. The slang for an addict is "overdose."

The feeling of self-pity for the most part very destructive. It is the one that makes you sit back, makes you cry.

The next step is. depression.

Moreover, this feeling is very "energy-consuming" - it deprives a person of the strength and desire to act to correct something in life. To put it mildly, whining appears: "Why, why should I do something, nothing changes, nothing will ever change, because I am a loser and a failure? I am miserable, I will never succeed." Such whining is a clear sign of a self-pitying person. But the most dangerous of all is another idea - if you cry, they will pity you, cheer you up and help you. This scheme of behavior from childhood (when your relatives pity you) to an adult is not that not to face, - it just does not work. You can understand yourself only when you start to act. But how can you act if your emotion is robbing you of your strength?

In addition to serious psychological problems, where help can only come from a top-notch professional psychologist, self-pity also causes real health problems.

Self-pity leads to depression, resulting in lowered immunity, in some cases as much as seventy percent.

You shouldn't be surprised that your failures in life are backed up by a number of health failures as well - catching the common cold with only 30% of body defenses is easy.

Self-pity also risks getting a stomach ulcer or gastritis - practically a "professional" disease in such cases. It is better to keep silent about the harm to the nervous system.

Where to look for salvation?

Before seeking the help of professionals-psychiatrists, go to counseling specialist understand yourself, change yourself.

Naturally, it is not easy to change yourself and your habits. Try to master the technique that I recommend as a professional psychologist and practitioner, a consultant in the fight against psychological problems. The main condition here is that this technique should become part of your daily life, just like using the toilet or brushing your teeth morning and evening. If you perceive the technique as a kind of "hygienic" skill, the results will not take long to come - life will start to change for the better, problems will become much less. If you work, of course. But you want it yourself, don't you? You don't want everything good, you don't want life to pass you by in the end.

Self-pity puts other emotions to sleep. Getting rid of it allows you to succeed in many ways - clear thinking will appear and, most importantly, you will feel the fullness of life physically and emotionally.

Based on many years of folk traditions and advanced psychological experience, I offer the following system of trainings and meditations. It is quite simple to understand and to put into practice. It is just a few simple steps.

1. Pacing. At a convenient time, in silence and complete solitude, turn off the lights, be sure to close your eyes.
2. Pacing. Take a couple minutes to get rid of the nasty thoughts and relax physically and spiritually.
3. Pacing. Imagine yourself in a room where you can stand with a vessel filled to the brim.
4. Pacing. Take pity on yourself. As much as you can. As much as you can. You fill yourself with pity, and begin, filling it, to pour it from your body into the vessel that you have in your hands. Think about the reasons - why are you feeling sorry for yourself? Squeeze the pity to the max. Stay like this for up to 10 minutes, even though it will be difficult. It will be hard to keep your attention on the pity itself, on the reasons. This will take some practice.
5. Pacing. After the imaginary vessel of pity is full, pour its contents into the toilet bowl (imaginary of course) and flush it with water. Visualize a strong and powerful stream of water flushing it all out of your life. The highlight of this system of steps is to fill the vessel with pity, pouring it out of your body, getting rid of it with a stream of clean water.
6. Pacing.  Count from one to five and open your eyes.

These simple steps will help, even though you may think you've never experienced feelings like self-pity. We highly recommend that you try it a few times. You will be pleasantly surprised by the result. Practicing this technique on a regular basis will pay off - helping your life to change.

We wish you to be healthy and make the most of your life. Never be afraid to admit that you have psychological problems. Turn to a specialist who will help you, change your life for the better. Often one consultation with a practicing psychologist saves you from years of torment. Be healthy!

❓ Frequently Asked Questions

1. What is self-pity and why is it dangerous?
   Self-pity is a destructive emotion that can lead to apathy, depression and lowered immunity. It deprives a person of strength and desire to act, freezing heartache and preventing problem solving.
2. How does self-pity affect physical health?
   Constant self-pity can weaken the immune system to 70% increase the risk of diseases such as colds, gastritis or stomach ulcers.
3. Why do people tend to feel sorry for themselves?
   Self-pity often occurs as a way to avoid responsibility and gain sympathy from others. This behavior can be learned from childhood, when crying attracted attention and care.
4. How do you deal with self-pity on your own?
   It is important to recognize the problem and start taking action. It is recommended to develop new habits such as regular physical activity, meditation and positive thinking to replace destructive behaviors.
5. When is it worth seeking professional help?
   If self-pity becomes persistent and interferes with normal life, it is recommended that you see a psychologist or psychotherapist for expert support.