Three reasons not to discuss HIM with your girlfriends!

What can be better for a sociable girl than a bachelorette party with her best friends? Only on it you can brag about new clothes, and ask advice, and find out what a dear friend has new, and - to wash out the bones of their boyfriends. How could you not?

However, although such discussions are the norm among girls, do not hurry to reveal to your friends all the features of your relationship with your loved one. You may be surprised, and even indignant, like, what's wrong with it? With whom else to talk about heart-to-heart, as not with the best friend? Nevertheless, revealing details of your personal life, you risk a lot without knowing it. The issue of personal relationships requires a careful approach.

Reason one: the girlfriend may have her own plans for your loved one.

After all, many men do not in vain believe that there is no real friendship between women. You and your friend can be soul mates and the closest of people - until a man appears on the horizon who interests you both.

Especially be careful if your girlfriend is in a free search. It does not matter what exactly you tell about your relationship with your favorite man - everything said will be used against you! If you happily brag about how smart he is, how attentive, how gentle and so on - you stir up in your girlfriends one of the most terrible human feelings: envy. Especially strongly it will flare up if the success of the friend on the personal front is much more modest than yours. Sometimes it happens so that the friend takes away a guy, if only to see how the joy on the face of a recently more successful visavie are replaced by bewilderment and pain.

It is unlikely that you will notice the first signs of envy in your girlfriend, this feeling develops imperceptibly for others.

So it's best not to wake the beast at all.

However, even if you scold a man, a friend can use your words against you. After all, if she liked the young man, she will rather suspect that it is not him "bad", but you are harmful. Which means that he is not so good with you. Well, then she will decide that with her he will obviously be better than with you. And the keys to winning his heart you gave her yourself, telling her about his preferences.

In any of the cases, you remain in a loss - a friend takes away your favorite man, your happiness suddenly ends, and discuss no one, and no one to discuss with....

Reason two: no man would tolerate having his private life made public.

Men, for the most part, are distrustful of the friends of their favorite girls. This is also the reason why. For him, your friend is a stranger to whom he would never tell about the details of his personal life. And he will be especially unpleasant if suddenly at a friendly sit-down he finds out that your girlfriends know about your relationship with him everything down to your favorite sex positions. At best, you're looking at a scandal. At worst, a breakup. So innocent talk becomes the cause of ruined happiness. Therefore, if your favorite man is really loved - before revealing to girlfriends new details of your relationship, think: will you hurt him with your unnecessary frankness?

Reason three: what two people know, the pig knows.

Even after taking a blood oath from your friend, you can't be 100% sure that she won't tell someone else about your secret. Chances are, you yourself have not always held back from sharing someone else's secret with your friend. This kind of verbal incontinence ends up making your private life no longer so private. First your man's little secrets are known by his girlfriends, then his girlfriends' girlfriends' girlfriends, and so on. This can end up with the fact that at one point you will hear an awkward question from an unfamiliar person, relating to a topic that this person does not need to know at all. So is it worth it to chat with your friends if half the town knows about you?

Not at all on the empty place was invented a joke: in fact, girls are perfectly able to keep secrets, but only in groups of forty people.

If you dramatically want to share with your girlfriend the details of your last meeting with your favorite man - remember this joke.

When you have friends in your life, with whom you can share your grief and joy, it is wonderful. However, while trusting them, you should remember that there are some things in life that you should not let strangers know about.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) ❓

1. Why shouldn't you discuss relationships with your girlfriends?
   Discussing personal relationships with girlfriends can distort your perception of your partner, lead to unnecessary advice and break trust in the couple. It is better to keep intimate details within the relationship.
2. How do other people's opinions affect relationships?
   Outside assessments are often subjective and can bring doubt even in a harmonious relationship. Excessive discussion creates unnecessary pressure and prevents you from feeling your partner for yourself.
3. What do you do if you want to share but can't?
   Keep a personal diary, consult a family psychologist or discuss the situation as neutrally as possible, without details. This will preserve confidentiality and your peace of mind.
4. How do you maintain trust without telling your girlfriends about your problems?
   Trust is built on honesty with your partner, not on the number of people privy to your difficulties. Learn to resolve issues within the couple - it strengthens the bond.
5. Can exceptions be made for close female friends?
   If it is very necessary to discuss the situation, choose one maximally tactful and wise friend who will not judge or impose her opinion. But it is better to talk to your partner first.