What prevents a woman from marrying well?

"My dear, you are celibate!" - exclaims the fortune-teller. Your best years are passing, and you have not created a family, or have already been in a marriage, but it quickly broke up? You are gnawing despair, because all friends and peers have long been married and nurse children. What is wrong with you? What prevents you from marrying successfully and building a happy and friendly family?

All kinds of prophetesses and fortune-tellers talk about the "celibacy crown" and offer to remove spoilage (not for free, of course). But you do not trust dubious rituals. And you are absolutely right. Psychologists can also talk about the "crown of celibacy", but, unlike fortune-tellers, they know what "flowers and thorns" this crown consists of.

These flowers and thorns are your inner complexes and attitudes that repel men or prevent you from recognizing your soulmate

They are varied, let's talk about some of them.

The first "thorn" The compulsive urge to "pop out" of marriage.

. Do you evaluate every young man who pays attention to you as a future husband? Require "serious intentions" already on the first date? Do not be surprised if on the second date he will not risk to come. No man will not go to the wedding by force. Especially if you look more closely at your desire, it turns out that it is based not on love, but on the desires, little to do with family joys. For example, you still live with your parents in a cramped apartment and hope thus to fly out of the parental nest. In general, to solve some purely personal problems at the expense of the man. Even if you manage to "harness" a suitable specimen, your marriage will not last long, because it will not be the most important thing - mutual love.

The second "thorn" Unreasonably high demands on the future husband.

. It is because of them that the dreams of happiness of beautiful girls are shattered. After all, their logic is as follows: "I am beautiful, it is worth whistling - and the crowds of men are at my feet, so I will not marry anyone, he must be worthy of me. And a long list of requirements is drawn up (he must necessarily be handsome, young, athletic, have his own apartment, expensive foreign car, take me to European resorts on vacation, and so on and so forth). Naturally, few men meet at least half of the requirements put forward to them, and "suitable" candidates if there are in nature, then either already "busy", or require from the beloved more than just physical beauty. The same fate awaits such arrogant young ladies - after a certain threshold, when it becomes clear that their "capital" loses value (beauty fades), they abruptly cancel most of the requirements and become obsessed with the desire to marry not necessarily for a handsome and young, but at least for a rich man, opening a real hunt (that is, bumping into the first thorn).

The third "thorn" Excessive emancipation.

. There is a popular saying: "men do not like women who are smarter than themselves. This is partly true, but with one clarification: men don't like women who try to demonstrate their superiority over them in every possible way. Do you have feminist views to some extent and think you are no worse than men? Do not "get in a pose" and every man you meet to prove that you can if not better, then certainly not worse than him. After all, family life - not a competition, and mutual cooperation and love. Your too "masculine" style of behavior repels men, because they are attracted not excessive independence, and femininity. Femininity, which you, most likely, just what you lack.

The fourth "thorn" The belief that "all men are assholes" and they "only need one".

". Most likely, you did not have a real father, you were brought up by your mother, who was angry at the male half of the population for her miserable life. She told you what a scoundrel your father was, who left her with a child in his arms for another. And you grew up believing that all men were vicious creatures who took advantage of poor women's weakness and lived off them.

This is the real thing. psychological celibacycapable of being passed down through generations of unhappy women from mother to daughter.

Once married, you are likely to blame all your failures and problems on your husband (and stale, and earns little, and the child does not want to watch, and the garbage did not take out), becoming a "sawfish" from which, of course, after a while, any man will run away. And you will confirm for yourself what your mother told you: all men are assholes, and they only need one thing from you.

In reality, however, things could have turned out very differently.....

And yet you do not want to leave everything as it is and intend to remove your celibacy veil. You are thinking about what will be more effective - rituals of a fortune-teller or help of a psychologist. Our advice - entrust your psychological complexes to a professional! Psychologists are much better than fortune-tellers understand human nature, and most importantly - they use their knowledge not for deception, but for cure. After all, at the heart of your misfortunes lie invisible psychological attitudes, which will not cancel any fortune-teller, but can be solved by an experienced psychologist.

❓ Frequently Asked Questions

1. Why can a compulsive desire to get married repel men?
   An obsessive desire for marriage can be perceived by men as pressure, especially if a woman considers each potential partner solely as a future husband, without considering mutual feelings and interests.
2. How do exaggerated demands on a partner affect the ability to marry?
   Exaggerated expectations, such as requirements for appearance, financial standing and status, can significantly reduce the circle of potential partners and lead to disappointments.
3. What does over-emancipation manifest itself in and how does it affect relationships?
   Excessive emancipation manifests itself in a woman's desire to demonstrate her superiority over men, which can repel potential partners seeking an equal and harmonious relationship.
4. How can negative attitudes about men get in the way of building relationships?
   The belief that 'all men are bad' can form communication barriers and mistrust, making it difficult to establish close and trusting relationships.
5. What internal complexes can prevent a woman from getting married?
   Complexes formed from negative experiences or family patterns can affect a woman's self-esteem and behavior, preventing her from building healthy and happy relationships.