{"id":223,"date":"2012-09-22T14:24:04","date_gmt":"2012-09-22T11:24:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.my-shrink.net\/?p=223"},"modified":"2025-05-15T16:24:39","modified_gmt":"2025-05-15T13:24:39","slug":"konflikty-mezhdu-detmi-sovety-v-pomoshh-roditelyam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nedelkova.pro\/en\/konflikty-mezhdu-detmi-sovety-v-pomoshh-roditelyam.php","title":{"rendered":"Conflicts between children! Tips to help parents!"},"content":{"rendered":"

In a children's collective, relations are often quite violent, children persecute other children for a variety of reasons. For example, because they are different in appearance, because they have speech defects, because their parents have an unprestigious specialty, because their surname is strange.... <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Causes of childhood conflicts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You can always find an excuse, and harassment is expressed mainly in teasing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is especially difficult for newcomers to the children's collective. On the one hand, in kindergarten or at school children get invaluable experience of socialization, on the other hand, when introducing into a new group of children struggles for their place in the hierarchy. Parents are eager to help their child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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But you can't influence the situation directly, it will put the child at the bottom of the hierarchy - a mama's boy or daddy's daughter<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

.Going to the teacher will put the child in the position of a tattletale, and tattletales are not liked in any collective. You can only help with advice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tip one. A smile will make the world a brighter place.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

All abusers expect tears and complaints, sadness and sadness. When they don't get what they expect, they usually look for a more amenable victim. Teach children to have a positive attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Tip two. Condescension.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A self-confident person is not looking for a background against which to assert himself, and bullying is started by children who do not have much success, but show collective courage. From the moment your child realizes that they are bullying him for being an individual, out of envy, his psychological attitude will change. It is desirable to acquire supporters in other factions of the children's collective, drawing attention to their own merits. It can be very difficult to convince a child of his self-value of exceptionalism, in particularly difficult cases, you can not do without the help of a psychologist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Method three. Ignoring can also be helpful.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You will need to work hard to develop a child's absolute calmness and equanimity. Lack of emotion, as we have already mentioned, will cause aggressors to lose interest in bullying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Method four. Unattractive? Unique!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Children are often complex because of their appearance, this weakness provokes persecution. One - red-haired, another - lopo-eared, the third - long-nosed, the fourth - overweight, the fifth - thin. More often tell these children about the success of people who do not meet the canons of beauty - Whoopi Goldberg and Woody Allen, Belmondo and Natalia Krachkovskaya.<\/p>\n\n\n

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And the most important way - you need to make new friends!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

How can parents help with communication? Option one - organize a camping trip. Shared experiences are very bonding. Option two - enroll your child in a sports club. This will increase the number of contacts, and respect for sports children in the team more. Ideally, you should bet on the section where your classmates study.<\/p>\n\n\n

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What decisions should be avoided?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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  • First, do not advise your child to fight. There may be stronger kids in the class and the mood to go dark.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Sometimes the child finds a solution not just in a positive attitude, but in joking around with the leader of the collective. But note that it will be difficult to give up this role. He will not be taken seriously.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Do not rush to move your child to another class or school because of conflicts. Transfer will not solve the problems, in a new collective the way of self-assertion will have to start again. Moreover, transferring to a new school will not change your child's appearance, he or she will still have the same habits and the same complexes.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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    Help your child change for the better!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

    And if you can not cope with the situation by your own family, contact a psychologist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \ud83d\udccc Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    1. How should parents respond to conflicts between children?<\/strong>
      Parents should remain calm and not intervene immediately in children's quarrels, allowing children to learn to resolve conflicts on their own. However, if the situation gets out of control or turns aggressive, intervention is necessary.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. What are some strategies to help prevent conflict between children?<\/strong>
      Creating an environment of cooperation, encouraging positive behavior, and providing personal space for each child can reduce the likelihood of conflict.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    3. How do you teach children to resolve disputes constructively?<\/strong>
      Teaching children communication skills, the ability to express their feelings in words and to listen to each other promotes constructive dispute resolution.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    4. What to do if children cannot resolve conflict on their own?<\/strong>
      In such cases, parents are encouraged to act as mediators, helping children to express their feelings and find a compromise solution without taking sides.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    5. How do you support a child who is being bullied in the community?<\/strong>
      It is important to build the child's self-confidence, teach strategies for responding to aggression, such as ignoring or using humor, and seek professional help when necessary.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n